Why long distance relationships are hard

by | Oct 5, 2012 | Updates

Long distance relationships are where two people who love each other are unfortunately separated by distance. Usually the only form of communication is through the internet, letters or telephone. Perhaps, people see long distance relationships not lasting and to a certain agree I can agree with them. However, in my case I have been dating a Korean girl that I love to bits for over 11 months now. I met her in Taiwan while studying Chinese and we had a spark and both fell in-love with each other.
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Here are some of the things that long distance relationships involve:
  • You don’t see your girlfriend on an everyday basis. Sometimes your lover doesn’t have time to speak to you on certain days, it is painful when your girlfriend is depressed and only your words can be used to cheer her up, and not a nice big cuddle.
  • An uncertain future. Seeing as I’m British & Taiwanese and my girlfriend is South Korean, it’s pretty difficult to decide where we are going in our futures. I want to do everything that allows me to become closer to my girlfriend, however of course that isn’t always going to go as planned. It also takes time for plans to take any effect.
  • I’ll be heading back to England next year and the time-zone difference will be dramatically different, so I’ll be even further away and I don’t know whether I’ll be able to keep in-touch with her on a continual basis.
  • Always be HAPPY and positive, as I cannot stress this enough. If YOU aren’t happy or positive, I don’t see the relationship lasting or being worth it. If it involves going the extra mile to be happy, take it; you only live life once, as there is no reset.

I miss my girlfriend to bits even though I just came back from seeing her 16 hours ago. I hate not being next to her, I hate not being able to hold her hand, I hate not being able to speak to her on the whim, I hate that I cannot squeeze and hug her tightly. Those are things that I hate not being able to do. So, if you are involved in a long distance relationship, what are the things you hate not being able to do?

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